To Hell with Feminists! Who wants to live with a woman who wants to be treated like a man? Not me, that’s for sure! So now we can’t use the term “Waitress” or “Stewardess” or any other “esses.” As we say in the UK, “What a load of cobblers.”
I was born in the Britain and have lived in several other countries including France, Canada, USA, Bahamas, Jamaica and Colombia. I am now residing in Indonesia where I hope to remain for the rest of my life. I am, at the time of this writing seventy four years old…UGH and supposedly retired but try to remain physically and mentally as active as possible.
You can imagine that, as a world traveler and single, I had more than my share of romantic affairs with girls from various cultural backgrounds. As a young man in Sheffield, my friends and I used to go to the dance hall every night, not to dance but solely to pick up willing girls. My peers and I would promise them anything to get them into bed and spend whatever amount of money it took to achieve that end. That was our entertainment. Marriage was something that never entered our minds so we didn’t really care how they acted.
Five years ago I married an Indonesian girl who is now twenty four years old. Now, before you go off half cocked about me being a dirty old man, let me explain that I certainly did not intend to marry someone so young and that this age difference is not the point of this article or in fact recommended, even by me. Our fantastic relationship is kind of a “one off” situation. I have also been accused of taking advantage of a poor, ignorant waif. Well, let me tell you that, before I met Yuyun she had refused a proposition from a rich businessman here who offered her a house and a car if she would be his second wife (permitted in Indonesia). She is university educated, learned to speak perfect English, runs our webpage including writing the HTML and drives our motorbike and car (like Fangio I might add!)
I was brought up in a typical Jewish family where my mother called the shots. I have vivid memories of constant nagging and complaining. Personally, whatever I did was wrong and all I heard was “Why can’t you be like your cousin Philip?” Father, who believe it or not was an ex champion boxer, never uttered a word of protest.
Maybe it was this childhood experience that influenced me but throughout my life I have never been able to put up with nagging women. Out in the mainstream British life, the men generally DID control the household much more than in the USA for example. There was a joke going around that in Britain, the men always have the last word: and it’s usually “Straight away Dear.” But speaking seriously, in the homes of most of my non-Jewish friends the men were definitely in charge.
As the Women’s Liberation Movement takes hold in the West, there is constant talk of “Equality.” To me, that is fine when it comes to equal pay for equal work but, when you come to think of it, the male of the species is physically stronger than the female. I wonder if Western men are really happy with the arguments, shouting matches and tension found in many homes It appears not, as the divorce rate in the UK and the USA is close to 50%. Maybe they have never known any other life? Does a man REALLY want to come home to a business woman who relates all her company’s woes to him? Does he really enjoy being instructed to help wash the dishes, take out the garbage etc? Wouldn’t it be nicer to be greeted by a feminine, loving, happy woman who would make him feel relaxed and wanted?
Unfortunately, generally speaking the above is how the Western culture appears to be but in Indonesia, it is totally different. In the five years that we have been married, my wife Yuyun and I have never had a single fight or argument. She is constantly happy and smiling. Our life is filled with love and understanding.
We have a webpage and receive countless numbers of emails from Western men relating that they are sick of the selfish and demanding attitudes of Western women. That explains the proliferation of Asian introduction sites on the Internet. We have many friends from the West visit here and they all tell me that they would give anything to have a wife like mine. Often we find them one.